Following your dreams requires strength, perseverance and faith. You may have faith in God, the universe, or another deity, but ultimately you have to have faith in yourself. Trust that what you want is part of something bigger. You may not see the exact form it will arrive to you, or you may not know how to travel the path towards your goals but taking one step full of faith in your own self is a step in the right direction.
Many people will try to sway you off course, and rarely is it done in malice. It’s usually done in the form of protection, wanting to shield you from disappointment, pain, rejection. Remember that if you haven’t taken the first step, you haven’t begun to experience and realise their fears, because that’s what they are; THEIR fear! Their life experience has taught them that to risk may be to suffer. What didn’t work for them, may work for you and what worked for them may not for you.
Every single person is made up of unique DNA. We each have a unique fingerprint. Take a moment to think about that. 7.8 billion people in the world, each with a unique fingerprint. Each with a unique fingerprint to anyone that has ever existed.
So what makes anyone think that a life path is one size fits all?
Some people will be satisfied with the security and comfort they feel with a 9-5 job, because that is their unique life path they have chosen.
Some are happy being parents because they have chosen that path.
Some want to be famous because that is their chosen path.
Some want to leave a mark on the world because they believe that is their path.
All of these choices are right…for all of those individuals.
When we are children, we often have an idea of the kind of life we want to live when we are older. We may know whether or not we want to become parents, if we want to get married, if we want to be an actress, a musician, a doctor, a lawyer, a shopworker, a chef or whatever. We may know the general direction we want to head in and the things we don’t want to do as well.
Some of these aspects are likely to change as we get older. Then when we become teenagers, we begin to feel like we have to fit a mould. We start to see the beginnings of our future taking form. “I will take this class because it leads down a path that feels right for me”. Then as you near the next phase after a couple of years, you feel the force of needing to make the next choice in a direction towards your goal.
But, what if you have no idea of what you want to do? What if all the obvious boxes and choices fill you with dread? What if your “safe bet” feels unsafe because it’s not fulfilling.
You are the only person with your unique genetic makeup. You are the only who can walk your path, others may help you along the way at times, but only you can travel in your shoes.
So, how do you make your dreams come true? Do not adopt others fears. Explain calmly how you understand where their concerns come from, but you have to make your own choices, your own mistakes and your own path because ultimately you are the only one that will have to live with the consequences, good or bad, of your decisions, not them.
So, you realise you are responsible for your choices? Great. Now What? Now you make small changes for the big dream.
“If you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you have always got”
It’s time to shake things up. This is a good time to list all of your excuses to get them out of the way like; I don’t have the time, I don’t have the money etc.
Now you have your obstacles in the form of excuses, you have to find solutions to these. This can be the smaller, yet extremely significant goals in your dream journey.
How can you prioritise and manage your time better? It’s time to do a life audit! Click Here to download a free goal setting checklist!
Monitor your time management – a great tool for this is your phone. Most modern smartphones have, in their settings, a way to monitor how often you use your phone and even list the productivity specifically. Using this you can monitor how much time you spend scrolling or browsing your phone unproductively enabling you to see where you can cut back and actually make more time for your goals. You can even put screen time limits on specific apps etc to stop you going over a set time per day.
Your next obstacle could be financial reasons. Firstly, don’t be afraid to ask for help from others when it comes to using their skills. If you know a website designer, they may be able to offer to help you build a site at a discounted rate, or at the very least they may be willing to offer you some advice for building your own. Secondly, be willing to learn some new skills. The internet is an incredible source for so much free learning to begin your first stages. Finally, life audit again. Every time you spend money, keep a note of it, so every day you are tallying up every penny you spend. Then you will be able to see where you can cut back. Maybe you could make a coffee to take to work instead of buying one on the way? You will be surprised how much you would save in a year making simple adjustments.